Do You Like Change?
Most people I know, if the truth be told, do not particularly like change. To change means to do something differently, whether it be by act, deed or principle. Sometimes a change may involve a manner of living, thinking or relating. For example, a person who may feel some anger may need to think before speaking and curtail his/her comments and have to bite the tongue. Other times change involves a complete shift, whether it be in the form of a job, a place to live, a relationship and the list goes on and on.
During this month of Elul, us Jews are asked to think about how we have acted over the past year, to take stock, do an inventory, and be honest about our way of thinking and acting. For some, it is a task that is prefunctory, and the motions are done, but the neither the thinking nor the behavior changes. For others, this time of the year can be truly life changing, especially for those who are willing to take an honest look at themselves and take true stock in how they have been acting or behaving over the past year. In blogsville, where there is a veil of anonyminity, there may, more often than not be a chance to be critical of others, call them names, be mean, nasty and vicious, as I have seen at times even here. Is this really how we want to be, act, live, one may need to ask? Does our conduct really matter over the internet?
My unequivocal answer would be yes, all that we think, how we act and treat one another matters at some fundamental level. For is it not the case that when we change, we can grow? By growing, we are learning that some patterns of thinking or behaving do not work so well for us, so we must think them through and follow a different course. But changing is difficult to say the least, but to stay the same, and not take an honest look at oneself, and learn, can be even more harmful in the long run.
Here is the question of the day: Do you like change? If so, why? Do you change your thinking first and hope the actions will follow or vice-versa?
Thank you for your minds.
During this month of Elul, us Jews are asked to think about how we have acted over the past year, to take stock, do an inventory, and be honest about our way of thinking and acting. For some, it is a task that is prefunctory, and the motions are done, but the neither the thinking nor the behavior changes. For others, this time of the year can be truly life changing, especially for those who are willing to take an honest look at themselves and take true stock in how they have been acting or behaving over the past year. In blogsville, where there is a veil of anonyminity, there may, more often than not be a chance to be critical of others, call them names, be mean, nasty and vicious, as I have seen at times even here. Is this really how we want to be, act, live, one may need to ask? Does our conduct really matter over the internet?
My unequivocal answer would be yes, all that we think, how we act and treat one another matters at some fundamental level. For is it not the case that when we change, we can grow? By growing, we are learning that some patterns of thinking or behaving do not work so well for us, so we must think them through and follow a different course. But changing is difficult to say the least, but to stay the same, and not take an honest look at oneself, and learn, can be even more harmful in the long run.
Here is the question of the day: Do you like change? If so, why? Do you change your thinking first and hope the actions will follow or vice-versa?
Thank you for your minds.
15 Comments:
change doesn't bother me. In all honest it depends on the rate that change takes place.
If it slow and a study pace thats my ideal of change.
But I know we don't always have complete control of events in our life.
I love change but handle it poorly. How's that for a head-scratcher? I look forward to it, I plan for it, I welcome it into my life, but when it comes I'm inevitably thrown into a tizzy. This is how I keep a stimulating level of stress in my life, you see.
Hmmmmmmmmm.......it depends?
For the most part, I welcome change because it feeds my insatiable desire to conjure up new ideas and to learn. When that's the case, change is refreshing and I'm more or less in control of it.
When change is foisted upon me without any opportunity for input or reflection, I tend to balk. Not that I'm THAT much of a control freak....but I find these circumstances, which most often happen within the world of work, indicate a clear sense of disrespect. I am a strong believer that a "staff" person will buy into change if they are brought into the mix early in the planning.
I also must see the reason behind the need for change. If it is change for the heck of it and there's no logic behind it...well, count me out. I have found this same reaction to learning when teaching adults.......if there is no logic behind why someone has to learn something new.....it can't be applied in a practical manner, you might as well be teaching to the wind.
I have coached, counselled, and facilitated workshops on change. It's a very interesting process to help people work through because everyone has their own way to reach the point where acceptance occurs.
Having said all that? I have one more comment and then I'll shut up.... Inner work/inner change is by far the most difficult and the most satisfying. To open our hearts and minds to listen to ourselves...to accept in ourselves that maybe we need to change or shift our way of being.....can be easier with the help of a Higher Power and a little help from our friends.
Hi,
I can say that I definitely don't like change, especially when hard work to break through a habit is required.
However I do understand the need to work and improve, and therefore at times I try to change certain things, sometimes with some success, sometimes with none..
I do however welcome positive change, anytime(like a higher income:)
It depends on what the change is to whether I like it or not!
I don't actively avoid change. I don't actively seek out drastic changes without thought.
Yes, sometimes it does depend upon what needs to be changed.
For myself, I used to fear change and now, in some circumstances, I welcome it.
I am a creature of habit. Change is not always easy for me. But I am driven and goal-oriented and always seeking to better myself, so I recognize that change is often necessary for growth, however hard.
Hey Barbara,, Glad you had a wonderful time on your trip,, I have been immersed in RealTime3D situations that have kept me from blogging. So, it is appropriate that you ask Do You like Change? here when I have returned to see what you are up to lately.
Me? Yes I thrive on Change, my whole philosopy of life is built around this simple fact of life. All things Change. The I CHING, or Book of Changes is my favorite tool to discern what Changes are afoot for myself. I have used it for over twenty years as a guide to the Influences that Change Me. My practise of 'Magick" is based on the fact that Change can follow a "CHANGE OF MIND" meaning,, the mind sets the tone of what type of change occurs in our lives. Magick itself has been defined as: Affecting Changes in the Real World to conform to the Will. We all do it on a daily basis, just most don't give it thought as too how much our Minds actually affect reality. So,,, Yes, I LOVE CHANGE, THRIVE ON IT,,, and of COURSE HOPE THE WORLD WILL CHANGE AGAIN SOON!!!
Scott
i think change is good as long as it is beneficial and helpful.. All change is not good change, but if it will benefit you than i say change.. As far as action first or thinking first.. It depends on the situation. I would like to say thinking first, but some cases does not allow that, so then you have to change your actions. Example.. If you think a specific way about you spouse for a very good reason and you find yourself being aggivated or what ever emotion may apply because of something he or she may be doing. It may be hard to change your thoughts because your spouse is continuing to do the same thing.. But you can change you actions or responses. Sometimes i find it helpful to do a little of both. I may look at the situation in a different fashion, like take me out of the equation to deal with it more effectively. That way it doesn't feel so personal but in reality it is. Sometimes if i have to change my thinking and it is difficult.. I write down the benefits of the change and put them in front of me.. Once i see it on paper i tell myself..hummm it would be foolish not to change.. Then i just do it... It just depends on the situation. Sometimes things are easier said than done and sometimes things are better if you just do it...
I do like change as far as growth goes be it in society or just with in me..but I like my day to day routine..change works then only for holidays:)
thanks for sharing
It depends on what the change is. Sometimes I crave change because I get bored with the same old routine.
Change can be really stimulating to me. It is like somebody opened the windows and all the fresh air came in.
I compare change to listening to a piece of music..and the key suddenly changes to a horribly off key note..after about 4 seconds of cringing..the new note suddenly becomes the note..and starts sounding pretty..
btw..I know u like Rachmaninoff..I have a piece of music by him on my new post
Watching my teens change has brought much joy lately. I have always enjoyed the role of agent of change so routine is the exercise I endure coaxing the new to emerge gracefully with respect, response and relation (the 3 Rs)
I'm a little late to the conversation, but yes - I love change! I love taking new perspectives, shaking up all that is familiar and thrusting my life headlong into a new set of challenges.
As for why, I think it has to do with the enormous opportunity for learning that comes with change.
i like change
i like experiences
i like challenges
i like risks
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